In India Sexual problems in Women largely go unnoticed as they are either shared with friends or gynecologists. In both cases just a "pep talk" is offered in name of counseling or treatment. It's a reality that upto 20% of divorces are due to curable sexual problems in one of the partners. One of the commonest problems is in achieving an Orgasm or attaining a climax during sexual intercourse.
Why is an Orgasm or climax needed?The initiation of a sexual act drives the body of both males and females to release a lot of hormones. An orgasm is the complete utilization of these hormones to positively stimulate the entire brain-body mechanisms. Inability to achieve an orgasm or climax leads to a lot of free floating hormones that lead to negative stimulation of the brain-body, leading to excessive irritation, anxiety, anger, stomach troubles, increased heart beat, lack of happiness and clinical depression.
How does inability to achieve orgasm affect a relationship?
Every human being looks for sexual satisfaction. Inability to attain so, many women might withdraw from having physical intimacy with there husbands and achieve the same through external help like masturbation.
Lack of satisfactory physical relationship puts a major strain over the relationship as both the partners drift away from each other causing minor issues to become major fights between them. In many cases the fights increase to such an extent that it leads to divorce.
The most common reason for this is:
While men get pleasure from stimulation of Penis, women get the same from stimulation of clitoris. Most women who complain of incomplete sexual intercourse, happen to receive a lesser than normal stimulation of the clitoris.
Unfortunately due to popular belief and lack of information, many woman (from housewives, to lawyers to bankers) tend to blame their male partners for sexual incompetence.
Men who are refereed to as "superman in bed" are natural subconscious practitioners of complete clitoris stimulation.
Solution?
1. Sex Positions- One of the most common reasons is sex-positions. Most people never experiment with their sex positions. A couple should find a sex position that's adequate to make sexual intercourse physically enjoyable and psychologically fulfilling for both partners.
So here are some sex positions that might help-
1. A face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches higher up the bed than normal.
What this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.
2. Woman on top position - The man lies down on his back. The sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself onto it. Giving her the freedom to adjust according to full clitorial stimulation.
3. Double Stimulation - It requires prior agreement by both partners. A manual clitorial stimulation by the male or female is done along with penial penetration of the vagina.
The male partner is normally standing while woman is lying down to perform this in unison.
4. The spoons position
A woman sidewise while the man makes a vagina entry from the rear side. Like a spoon next to a spoon.
There's no right or wrong way to have sex with a partner but it should be an exercise that helps in complete physical, emotional and psychological sexual satisfaction of both partners.
2. Relaxed Mind
Many times a woman's mind is occupied with excessive thoughts at the time of initiating sexual act. This confuses the subconscious mind and it leads to complete closure and withdrawal from the sexual act.
Sexual satisfaction is a birth right of every individual. Happiness can never be achieved without the same. It's better to consult a good professional and get the right information than leading a life of sadness and despair.